subgirlygirl

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Whatever the day brings, enjoy it, ladies! You earn it every single day 🌞

zeromeaum:

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hassieblad-deactivated20211127 asked:

How did your relationship with girl start, and how did you evolve it into the current dynamic you have now? It’s curious to think that your relationship with her was anything but the lovely D/s dynamic you presently maintain. Was it a fluid transition? Was there any fear or uneasiness at first? How did you know this was what you wanted (or what she wanted)? I am dying to hear the backstory!

dwpreturns:

Undercurrents of D/s were always there in the bedroom, even when we were very young (we met in college) and hadn’t ever heard of D/s except for the stereotypes of whips and chains. I have always been a responsibility-taker (it’s sort of a habit.) At one point I wrote her a note and said “This is going to be a wild journey. I’ll drive.” That was probably an early sign.

But I was terrible at setting boundaries, and girl REALLY needed them. So she pushed to find them and when she crossed an invisible boundary – which was clear to me, but I hadn’t made it explicit to her – I broke up with her. We joke about this breakup being her fault, but looking back, if I’d made the rule clear, I know she would have accepted it.

We took a long break and then got back together. We had both matured during the break. The sex was amazing and more D/s intense. Then I discovered tumblr and experienced a movie-style series of flashbacks dating from early childhood tendencies through teen years to my recent adult relationships. I had a classic epiphany. I was a Dominant. 

I suspected girl was submissive, but doubt consumed me. @subgirlygirl helped me IMMENSELY, talking me off the cliff, helping me decode girl’s subtle signals. So one day (while we were on a run, not sure what I was thinking) I basically laid it all out that I wanted to take our D/s out of the bedroom and into our every day life.

THAT DID NOT GO WELL. She is change averse and was confused and didn’t want any part of it. Man, I was crushed. But I didn’t give up. I regrouped and took on a new strategy: I would listen for places to take control, and I would assert dominance where it was important to me. For example, when she would ask where we should go to eat, I would no longer waffle, I would pick a place and that was that. (Now I’m hungry for waffles. Damn it.) When I wanted her home by a certain time, I told her so. That led to our first punishment spanking. (Those haven’t really worked out for us. Lately I’m thinking I’ll give them another try.) 

One day I discovered that her underwear wardrobe needed a major overhaul. So I threw out all her panties, took her to Victoria’s Secret, and bought her new ones, all my choices. That story is here. More rules evolved. Bed time. Curfew. A text “Coming home, Daddy!” when she leaves somewhere to come home. There were more, but I don’t remember them. They’ve evolved over time, become less formal, more guidelines than rules, but it works for us. Bedtime was a tough one. It was a constant problem. I increased punishments. But it became clear to me that a. she’s a night owl b. she needs less sleep than I do and c. depriving her of those late night hours was robbing her of the alone time she needed to maintain her sanity. So I dumped the bedtime rule. Now, when it gets out of hand, I just drag her ass to bed or make her go take naps. It works much better.

❤❤❤

sunny-velvet:

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dirtydeluxespecial asked:

Hello I am new to the lifestyle and found a lot intriguing stuff in your conversations...Let me know it is ok to get perspectives with who and what I come across. I found a ton situations that I was not sure how to respond to.

Absolutely! I’m currently building a new business, so I’m not around very often, but I try to check in a couple times a week. If you have specific questions or scenarios, feel free to run them by me. I’ll give as much of myself as I can, but I’m happy to post the questions for others to comment on, as well.

holden-migroin asked:

It’s awesome seeing your posts back on my page. You’ve always been one of my favorites to follow and I always look forward to seeing your posts. Hopefully you will be able to come back around a little more often!! ✌️✌️✌️

Hey, friend! Nice seeing you in my (wait for it…) box 😉 Things are crazy busy, but yes, I’m planning to slow my face a little more!

Anonymous asked:

I've read your stuff off and on for years, and while I agree with most of what you say, it's sometimes hard to stomach because everything seems gender specific. Like it's a man's job to do this and a woman's job to do this. Maybe consider using gender neutral language so trans and binary folks and those not in heteronormative relationships can relate better?

Absolutely not. That will never happen; I would close up shop before I allowed a trending movement to coerce my language.

I write from my perspective, and I’m not speaking to everyone. What I say and write lands where it needs to land. Everything doesn’t have to be for everyone. I firmly believe part of the reason this blog grew such a large following is because most people seeking this type of content can relate, at least in part, to what I share. Most folks have the cognitive ability to take information and advice and parse out what’s relevant to them.

Bottom line: This is my blog and I write for those who relate to or are interested in a male dominant/female submissive dynamic. This new trend of blanket inclusivity can fuck straight off a cliff.

9710144:

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I’ll say it, idgaf.

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femininelady:

There are bad men that will prey on you in this community. They think that because you like traditional gender roles, or aspire to be a stay-at-home mother that you will be easy to push around and manipulate. These men will seem charming at first because they are saying what they know you want to hear. Learn the red flags. Memorize them. Always trust your gut. And never, EVER settle for someone because they convince you that you can’t do better.

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