Fuckers. Get ready to do this A MILLION TIMES A DAY.

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“ iamatoofficial:
“  23 Behaviors Of A Gentleman That Every Man Should Adopt
It’s the little things that count the most.  1. A gentleman opens doors for a lady.
As far as a gentleman is concerned, all women and girls should...

huntress-fierce-n-deadly:

iamatoofficial:

23 Behaviors Of A Gentleman That Every Man Should Adopt

It’s the little things that count the most.

1. A gentleman opens doors for a lady.

As far as a gentleman is concerned, all women and girls should be treated as ladies. Opening a door is not a gesture of condescension, but rather courtesy and deference. As far as revolving doors go, modern manners dictate that a gentleman allow the woman to enter first. Car doors are no exception, regardless of who is driving. If a third party is driving, open the curbside door and ensure that she is safely in before closing it.

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2. A gentleman walks closest to the curb.

The idea being, of course, to protect her from traffic, debris, puddles and other urban calamities.

3. A gentleman makes reservations.

Doing something as simple as making a reservation not only shows initiative and planning – and therefore concern for her – it also guarantees you won’t be sitting around drinking watered-down margaritas waiting for a giant pager to go off.

4. A gentleman gives her his jacket.

Especially when it’s freezing. Especially when it’s snowing. Especially in the rain. If she looks cold, she’s cold. Just take your jacket off.

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5. A gentleman is punctual.

If you’re not early, you’re late. Plan for traffic and other little disasters. Make sure you have gas in your car. There’s no excuse for being late. Respect her time. And if she’s late, don’t draw attention to it. The correct answer to the question “how long have you been waiting” is “I just got here a few minutes ago.” Never keep a woman waiting.

6. A gentleman rises when she enters the room.

Again, a sign of respect and acknowledgement. You should also rise when she exits. At a meal, you stand when she excuses herself and again when she returns. Even a partial rising shows gentle manners, but it’s best to fully stand if possible.

7. A gentleman gives compliments sincerely and often.

The first words out of your mouth when you meet a woman on a date should be along the lines of “you look stunning.” If you’re in a relationship, don’t fall into the trap of taking her for granted: compliment her as if you were courting her all over again.

8. A gentleman helps her to be seated.

1. Pull the chair out for her.

2. As her knees bend to sit, gently push the chair in with both hands on the backrest.

On a related note…

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9. A gentleman gives up his seat.

Yes, on the subway. Yes, on the bus. Yes, in the waiting room at the DMV. It doesn’t hurt. It costs you nothing. And if a pregnant woman or elderly lady steps into your subway car, your first instinct should be to immediately stand and offer your seat.

10. A gentleman helps a lady with her coat.

Ask, “May I?” Position yourself behind her and gently grasp her coat near the collar and shoulder and allow her to slip free. Either drape the coat over your arm or hang it up. To help her put the garment back on, hold the coat in the same way and allow her to slip her arms in, then straighten the collar as she adjusts.

11. A gentleman says “please” and “thank you.”

Far too often overlooked, a simple “please” and “thank you” can go a very long way.

12.  A gentleman minds his table manners.

Even if you’ve never mastered the continental style of using utensils (left hand, fork; right hand, knife), it doesn’t take any training to not talk with your mouth full or chew with your mouth open.

13. A gentleman is never rude to servers, bartenders, or anyone else for that matter.

There is nothing more offensive than someone who talks down to someone and treats them as if they were inferiors. That kind of snobbery has no place anywhere: it’s ill-mannered, awful for everyone around you, and it makes you look like an ass. Treat people as you would like to be treated.

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14. A gentleman pays.

Put away the calculator. The term “going Dutch” was invented by the English as an insult: they regarded the Dutch as cheap. Just pay… and don’t think that paying means you’ve bought anything more than dinner or drinks. There should be no expectations attached.Under no circumstances should she see the check or have any idea how much it is. A tight-lipped smile is your friend here, as always.

15. A gentleman gets her safely to her door.

Her safety, comfort, and well-being are your first and foremost priority. After a date, meeting, dinner… whatever… make sure that she gets home safely and thank her for the pleasure of her company.

16. A gentleman listens.

If you want to get to know a person, ask them questions… and listen to their responses. Listening does not mean “waiting for your chance to talk.” It means being attentive, learning to read responses, understand reactions, and navigate someone’s emotional landscape.

17. A gentleman keeps his word and a secret.

Don’t commit yourself to any obligation that you are not willing to brave fire, famine, and flood to fulfill. Likewise, when you are entrusted with a secret, guard it as closely as you do your own. There is no breakup, no fight, no argument, no falling out that absolves you from this responsibility. Live and die with the secrets entrusted to you locked away in your heart.

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18. A gentleman never hits a woman. Ever.

No matter what: you never hit a woman. There’s no excuse. There’s no possible argument to the contrary. There’s no “what if?” and there’s no qualifier. Gentlemen don’t hit women. Ever.

19. A gentleman shows initiative.

If you’re asked which dress, which pair of jeans, or which pair of shoes looks better…have an actual opinion. “They both look the same” or “whatever you like” are not actual opinions. Likewise, if you’re asking someone on a date, have a destination in mind. Have a plan.

20. A gentleman pays attention to details.

Take mental notes. Her likes. Her dislikes. Her shoe size. Her ring size (please note that nearly all jewelry stores display a default ring size of 6 for women). Her favorite color. This information will prove useful and when it does – when you show up with a bundle of lavender because you know it reminds her of her grandmother – it shows you care.

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21. A gentleman asks for her family’s blessing before proposing.

This modern departure from asking her father for permission acknowledges the importance of her whole family: mom, dad, brothers, sisters, grandparents. It shows respect for her family: you are, after all, asking to join them.

22. A gentleman is a jack of all trades.

Science fiction author Robert A. Heinlein once wrote,  

“A human being should be able to change a diaper, plan an invasion, butcher a hog, conn a ship, design a building, write a sonnet, balance accounts, build a wall, set a bone, comfort the dying, take orders, give orders, cooperate, act alone, solve equations, analyze a new problem, pitch manure, program a computer, cook a tasty meal, fight efficiently, die gallantly.”

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A gentleman knows how to do things. He’s the guy people look to in an emergency, whether it’s a natural disaster or a social one. A gentleman is prepared to answer questions and if he doesn’t know the answer, he knows where to find it. He is confident and socially adroit, able to handle any situation that life throws at him.

23. He goes out of his way to let her know he cares. Every. Single. Day.

Flowers. Affectionate post-it notes. Spa days. Simple compliments. All of those things add up. So show your affection every day.

Manners aren’t something that should feel forced or ostentatious: rather, they should make the people around you feel better about being around you.

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Wish more men were like this.

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blueashes asked: Hello, I hope y poo use enjoying Thailand. I was just wondering, if you could go back in time to your twenties, what advice would you give yourself, if any at all? Thanks :)

I would give significantly less of a shit how people felt about me, particularly men. I spent a lot of time and energy concerned with whether or not they liked me, were interested in me, etc… Looking for social cues, reading huge stories into every little behavioral nuance… only to be emotionally destroyed if they didn’t like me the same way I liked them, blah blah blah.

Now I don’t particularly care. I’m only interested in how I feel about them and how they make me feel about myself. If I’m really into someone then yes, I hope they like me, too. Of course. But it is what it is; chemistry is either there or it’s not, it’s absolutely nothing that can be forced. If it’s not clicking it likely never will, and I have no interest wasting time on a dead end. So my advice would be to pursue what feels good and healthy, and avoid anything or anyone that makes you feel bad, sad, desperate, or in any way like you’re not enough or have to ‘work’ for love or attention.

Damn, 200+ followers went bye-bye overnight. Deleted?… Preemptive or otherwise? No longer visible?

Not going anywhere

As many of you are well aware, I changed my Tumblr blog dramatically approximately 3 years ago; I deleted all explicit adult images/gifs and made a policy to never again post genitalia in any way. Back in the day my blog, appropriately, was marked as explicit. This is no longer the case. While some of it may be considered NSFW, the content - including imagery - is no longer pornographic in any way, and my blog will unlikely be affected by the upcoming sweep on 12/17/18.

However. Systems aren’t perfect, and despite reassurances that my blog does not qualify for deletion, it could happen. Over the last few months I’ve worked on a new website that should be active on or before 12/17/18. If my Tumblr is left alone, the tumblr blog will remain active at subgirlygirl.tumblr.com. Either way, subgirlygirl.com will no longer run on the Tumblr platform, and I will blog directly from there. If you have subgirlygirl.com bookmarked, you might have to refresh the bookmark when the new site goes live (not sure how that works). Bottom line: Content will be preserved, and I will actively blog from my own site.

Feel free to contact me here for now, and over at subgirlygirl.com in the very near future.

naughtynurse1964 asked: I just want you too know I loved the writing of yours about the wall and toe holds... Its so apt in so many ways! Have a blessed day and thank you for bringing a smile to my face! Kitten🎀

Thank you so much! 😘💗

Scale

mademoisellesensuelle:

subgirlygirl:

“Your wall is so high,” he said, “Has anyone made it over?”

“No,” she replied, remembering the ones who had tried. She kicked off her shoes and clenched the grass with her toes. Monkey toes he always said. She laughed and closed her eyes.

“I think I may know why,” he said thoughtfully. “They tried to break through. They used their dominance like a battering ram and attempted to crush the stones to clear a path inside.”

“A few came close,” she said. “I thought they’d made it in.”

“But they didn’t know their science. It’s simple geology, really,” he explained. “The stones cannot be crushed.” She opened her eyes and looked at him warily, curious.

“Stones are comprised of experiences. Each one a memory, unique in its own right. But over time they interlock.” He pulled her close, laced his fingers through hers. “Gravity insists upon it.

“Their collective strength cannot be demolished,” he went on. “Sure, it can be chipped at. But one man alone cannot make it fall.”

“So I’m doomed,” she lamented with an exaggerated sigh. “Forever imprisoned by years of bad decisions. Until you, my brave knight, wield the mightiest weapon of all!”

“Silly girl,” he smiled. “Do you see a hammer in my hand? A sword?” A flash of confusion crossed her face. “I’m not breaking down anything.”

He stood and pulled her to her feet. “I’m not even going to try.”

The lump came quickly and lodged firmly in her throat. He didn’t even want to try. She slipped on her shoes, head down. Her nose stung with the threat of tears.

“I understand,” she said. “And honestly, I can’t say I blame you.”

He looked at her, paused. Waited until she raised her eyes to his.

“I don’t think you do,” he said. “Understand, that is. I have no plans to demolish. I’m simply going to gather.”

“Gather?” she asked, confused. “I don’t know what that means.”

Again he took her hands in his, lightly tracing the soft pads of her fingertips. “Look at your wall. There are crevices between the stones. Do you see the flowers? Thousands of flowers, every color you can imagine. It’s quite beautiful, really.

“I’m going to gather the flowers. I will find toeholds where I can, and where there are none I will reach to you for a hand.”

Her breath caught; she didn’t say a word. She watched his fingers trace the blue on the back of her hand. “But I need to know,” he went on.

“Will you pull me up?”

© subgirlygirl.com, 2014

Holy cow. You are one hell of a writer.

Thank you!! 😚

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Nothing is more awkward than witnessing a couple split the check on a first (and hopefully last) date.

Anonymous asked: Please do more readings on your soundcloud account.

Holy Moses, is that thing still floating around out there?! 😃 I’m glad you liked it. I can’t promise any more, but if an opportunity arises… you never know…

iamatoofficial:
“23 Behaviors Of A Gentleman That Every Man Should Adopt
It’s the little things that count the most. 1. A gentleman opens doors for a lady.
As far as a gentleman is concerned, all women and girls should be treated as ladies. Opening a...

iamatoofficial:

23 Behaviors Of A Gentleman That Every Man Should Adopt

It’s the little things that count the most.

1. A gentleman opens doors for a lady.

As far as a gentleman is concerned, all women and girls should be treated as ladies. Opening a door is not a gesture of condescension, but rather courtesy and deference. As far as revolving doors go, modern manners dictate that a gentleman allow the woman to enter first. Car doors are no exception, regardless of who is driving. If a third party is driving, open the curbside door and ensure that she is safely in before closing it.

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2. A gentleman walks closest to the curb.

The idea being, of course, to protect her from traffic, debris, puddles and other urban calamities.

3. A gentleman makes reservations.

Doing something as simple as making a reservation not only shows initiative and planning – and therefore concern for her – it also guarantees you won’t be sitting around drinking watered-down margaritas waiting for a giant pager to go off.

4. A gentleman gives her his jacket.

Especially when it’s freezing. Especially when it’s snowing. Especially in the rain. If she looks cold, she’s cold. Just take your jacket off.

image

5. A gentleman is punctual.

If you’re not early, you’re late. Plan for traffic and other little disasters. Make sure you have gas in your car. There’s no excuse for being late. Respect her time. And if she’s late, don’t draw attention to it. The correct answer to the question “how long have you been waiting” is “I just got here a few minutes ago.” Never keep a woman waiting.

6. A gentleman rises when she enters the room.

Again, a sign of respect and acknowledgement. You should also rise when she exits. At a meal, you stand when she excuses herself and again when she returns. Even a partial rising shows gentle manners, but it’s best to fully stand if possible.

7. A gentleman gives compliments sincerely and often.

The first words out of your mouth when you meet a woman on a date should be along the lines of “you look stunning.” If you’re in a relationship, don’t fall into the trap of taking her for granted: compliment her as if you were courting her all over again.

8. A gentleman helps her to be seated.

1. Pull the chair out for her.

2. As her knees bend to sit, gently push the chair in with both hands on the backrest.

On a related note…

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9. A gentleman gives up his seat.

Yes, on the subway. Yes, on the bus. Yes, in the waiting room at the DMV. It doesn’t hurt. It costs you nothing. And if a pregnant woman or elderly lady steps into your subway car, your first instinct should be to immediately stand and offer your seat.

10. A gentleman helps a lady with her coat.

Ask, “May I?” Position yourself behind her and gently grasp her coat near the collar and shoulder and allow her to slip free. Either drape the coat over your arm or hang it up. To help her put the garment back on, hold the coat in the same way and allow her to slip her arms in, then straighten the collar as she adjusts.

11. A gentleman says “please” and “thank you.”

Far too often overlooked, a simple “please” and “thank you” can go a very long way.

12.  A gentleman minds his table manners.

Even if you’ve never mastered the continental style of using utensils (left hand, fork; right hand, knife), it doesn’t take any training to not talk with your mouth full or chew with your mouth open.

13. A gentleman is never rude to servers, bartenders, or anyone else for that matter.

There is nothing more offensive than someone who talks down to someone and treats them as if they were inferiors. That kind of snobbery has no place anywhere: it’s ill-mannered, awful for everyone around you, and it makes you look like an ass. Treat people as you would like to be treated.

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14. A gentleman pays.

Put away the calculator. The term “going Dutch” was invented by the English as an insult: they regarded the Dutch as cheap. Just pay… and don’t think that paying means you’ve bought anything more than dinner or drinks. There should be no expectations attached.Under no circumstances should she see the check or have any idea how much it is. A tight-lipped smile is your friend here, as always.

15. A gentleman gets her safely to her door.

Her safety, comfort, and well-being are your first and foremost priority. After a date, meeting, dinner… whatever… make sure that she gets home safely and thank her for the pleasure of her company.

16. A gentleman listens.

If you want to get to know a person, ask them questions… and listen to their responses. Listening does not mean “waiting for your chance to talk.” It means being attentive, learning to read responses, understand reactions, and navigate someone’s emotional landscape.

17. A gentleman keeps his word and a secret.

Don’t commit yourself to any obligation that you are not willing to brave fire, famine, and flood to fulfill. Likewise, when you are entrusted with a secret, guard it as closely as you do your own. There is no breakup, no fight, no argument, no falling out that absolves you from this responsibility. Live and die with the secrets entrusted to you locked away in your heart.

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18. A gentleman never hits a woman. Ever.

No matter what: you never hit a woman. There’s no excuse. There’s no possible argument to the contrary. There’s no “what if?” and there’s no qualifier. Gentlemen don’t hit women. Ever.

19. A gentleman shows initiative.

If you’re asked which dress, which pair of jeans, or which pair of shoes looks better…have an actual opinion. “They both look the same” or “whatever you like” are not actual opinions. Likewise, if you’re asking someone on a date, have a destination in mind. Have a plan.

20. A gentleman pays attention to details.

Take mental notes. Her likes. Her dislikes. Her shoe size. Her ring size (please note that nearly all jewelry stores display a default ring size of 6 for women). Her favorite color. This information will prove useful and when it does – when you show up with a bundle of lavender because you know it reminds her of her grandmother – it shows you care.

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21. A gentleman asks for her family’s blessing before proposing.

This modern departure from asking her father for permission acknowledges the importance of her whole family: mom, dad, brothers, sisters, grandparents. It shows respect for her family: you are, after all, asking to join them.

22. A gentleman is a jack of all trades.

Science fiction author Robert A. Heinlein once wrote,  

“A human being should be able to change a diaper, plan an invasion, butcher a hog, conn a ship, design a building, write a sonnet, balance accounts, build a wall, set a bone, comfort the dying, take orders, give orders, cooperate, act alone, solve equations, analyze a new problem, pitch manure, program a computer, cook a tasty meal, fight efficiently, die gallantly.”

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A gentleman knows how to do things. He’s the guy people look to in an emergency, whether it’s a natural disaster or a social one. A gentleman is prepared to answer questions and if he doesn’t know the answer, he knows where to find it. He is confident and socially adroit, able to handle any situation that life throws at him.

23. He goes out of his way to let her know he cares. Every. Single. Day.

Flowers. Affectionate post-it notes. Spa days. Simple compliments. All of those things add up. So show your affection every day.

Manners aren’t something that should feel forced or ostentatious: rather, they should make the people around you feel better about being around you.

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