'Friend' me on Fetlife!

A number of people put two and two together when a couple of my writings hit Fetlife’s Kinky & Popular (one is still up now - woo!).

Yup, I’m on Fetlife. Yup, my name over there is (brace yourselves…) Subgirlygirl.

Find me! Friend me!

Hey, ya'll... Don't stick a toothbrush down your throat, ok?

mysubconsciousjourney:

vaginaandmagirl:

subgirlygirl:

There’s some horrifically dangerous and irresponsible ‘advice’ floating around Fetlife right now that could, if someone actually attempts it, hurt - or even kill.

DO NOT stick a toothbrush - or anything sharp, pointed, narrow, or loose - down (or into) your throat.

I fully understand that some…

You’ve got to be kidding me. No one should have to tell you not to put a toothbrush down your throat, but thank you subgirlygirl for taking up that cross. 

This should be filled under “I shouldn’t have to tell you not to put peanut butter on the dog.” - something that anyone that has or has had a three year old can probably imagine being said. 

I could be wrong but when I’ve seen advice about sticking a toothbrush down your throat, they mean brushing the back of your tongue not swallowing a toothbrush. A way to desensitize the gag reflex is by brushing the very back of your tongue, a spot that’s not too far away from the back molars. I think it’s great that there’s someone trying to look out for subs but I do think this is more a misunderstanding.

It’s not a misunderstanding. The person who wrote the offending post edited it, heavily, after receiving flack about his shoddy advice.

Hey, ya’ll… Don’t stick a toothbrush down your throat, ok?

There’s some horrifically dangerous and irresponsible ‘advice’ floating around Fetlife right now that could, if someone actually attempts it, hurt - or even kill.

DO NOT stick a toothbrush - or anything sharp, pointed, narrow, or loose - down (or into) your throat.

I fully understand that some people (ahem) view deep throating as the golden statue on the mantle of all submissive traits, but I can pinky promise this is a skill best learned with a trusted partner - on a trusted partner. Sticking things into or down your throat in an attempt to please someone intent on that particular skill can have catastrophic consequences.

(For the record, if you’re submissive and don’t want to - or can’t - deep throat, you are in fact still submissive. I know there was some question there, but… actually… no… there’s no question.)

Dildos do not bend or curve the way a penis does. (Unless you happen to be dating a dildo model, in which case go, you!!!) Dildos do not swell, or throb, or self-lubricate. Most dildos are often significantly larger than a real penis, and unless you’ve worked your way up to it (for what exactly?) there’s simply no reason to ‘practice’ on one. I mean you can, of course. If you feel it will help you overcome some sensitivity, great! But it doesn’t feel like a real man, and as far as I know dildos don’t give much feedback.

Regarding a toothbrush and sticking the handle in or down your throat in an attempt to desensitize your gag reflex… just don’t. There have been cases where the person lost their grip on the toothbrush (or other implement) because of that wonderful phenomenon that allows us to swallow called peristalsis. You can literally choke to death in the name of domly ‘science.’ If you do manage to hold onto it, there is still the very real possibility of perforation. While a contusion (i.e., bruise) in this area may cause discomfort, pain, and even hoarseness if the damage is low enough, a perforation can cause much, much worse. It takes a surprisingly small amount of pressure to perforate the tissues in the back of the throat; the striations in smooth muscle are relatively easy to penetrate, and while mucinous areas (think mouth, vagina) tend to heal quicker than other areas, a perforated pharyngeal wall introduces all sorts of baddies into an area that was not designed to see the light of day.

Though the instigating ‘advice’ has since been edited and the part about using a banana removed, I’m sure some people read that and ran straight to the grocery store - so this part is for them. Bananas (oh, for the love…) are sharp on the end when in the peel, and they can break off in your throat when peeled. Don’t put a banana in your mouth unless you’re taking an appropriate-size bite and plan to swallow it.

DO NOT, in any way, try to ‘plug’ or otherwise suppress vomiting.

So, let’s pretend for a sec that for whatever reason you feel the need to vomit. I don’t care if you’re singing in the shower, eating your nana’s famous spaghetti, or choking down your master’s cock. If you need to vomit, VOMIT. And if some motherfucker tries to keep you from vomiting, cut that mofo loose. Aspiration is a very real thing, and it often leads to aspiration pneumonia which can kill you. I could go on about this (as this topic, believe it or not, is the primary focus of my career), but I won’t. You can Google the basics if you feel the need to.

(Oh… he was kidding with that whole ‘cock plug’ thing? Oh… ok… har har! I thought some ill-informed newbie might take that bit of ‘expert’ advice to heart and actually try it. My bad.)

In short (too late!!), please do not read something online that sounds reasonable (this post included) and assume the author knows what the fuck they’re talking about. There is excellent advice out there, but there is equally shitty advice; don’t blindly accept it simply because so many are singing the author’s praises. The author could be wrong. Dead wrong.

subgirlygirl:

Pushed down, held in place, fucked, bitten… reminded.

I need this.

subgirlygirl:

Pushed down, held in place, fucked, bitten… reminded.

I need this.

(Source: raininjuarez)

subgirlygirl:

Red :-)

subgirlygirl:

Red :-)

(Source: iscorpiorising)

subgirlygirl:

“We’re done talking. Well… you are.”

subgirlygirl:

“We’re done talking. Well… you are.”

(Source: misterstgermain)

subgirlygirl:

"Make me. Wait… NO!… Ahhhggghh…!!"

subgirlygirl:

"Make me. Wait… NO!… Ahhhggghh…!!"

(Source: thelandofrapeandhoney)

subgirlygirl:

Rhythm, friction, timing… and just a touch of luck… 

subgirlygirl:

Rhythm, friction, timing… and just a touch of luck… 

subgirlygirl:

When you reach your spending limit…
… STOP BUYING SHIT.

subgirlygirl:

When you reach your spending limit…

… STOP BUYING SHIT.

(Source: dolorumservit)

"Hold position, girl."

"Hold position, girl."

(Source: daddyslittlepuppy, via sir-chase)

This looks vaguely familiar…:: whistles ::

This looks vaguely familiar…

:: whistles ::

(Source: aflyonthewalls, via smallanbig)

Deserving

(Source: kiqx, via her-boss)

Want want WANT! And then you can defile me while wearing this ;-)

(Meaning I’ll wear this. Not you.)

Want want WANT! And then you can defile me while wearing this ;-)

(Meaning I’ll wear this. Not you.)

(Source: mansikka)

Waaaaaant!

Waaaaaant!

(Source: 0h-my-god)

subgirlygirl:

Hahaha!

(Yeah, no.)

subgirlygirl:

Hahaha!

(Yeah, no.)